Study shows the more time you spend with your mom, the longer she’ll live

Has it been awhile since you’ve seen your mom? A 2012 study says you should invite her over for dinner soon.

The study concluded that loneliness is a significant factor in the decline of quality of life in older adults, including risk of depression, cognitive impairment and health problems like coronary artery disease, and may even lead to an earlier death.

Specifically, the study looked at 1,600 adults with an average age of 71. Researchers found that 23 percent of participants who reported being lonely died within six years of the study, while only 14 percent of those who reported having companionship died during the same six year period.

The results, which were published in the JAMA Internal Medicine, remained consistent even after controlling for health and socioeconomic status.

The Connection Between Social Ties And Health
Another study published in the journal PLoS Medicine in 2010 found that social ties can be as important to extending life as losing weight if you are obese and getting active if you are sedentary.

“Our social relationships are important not only to our quality of life, but also our longevity,” said study author Julianne Holt-Lunstad, PhD, associate professor of psychology at Brigham Young University in Provo, Utah, to WebMD.

“Throughout human history, we have relied on others for survival such as protection and food, and despite modern advancements that may [help with] certain aspects of survival so that we can live more independently, it appears that our relationships nonetheless still impact odds of survival,” she says.

Research has shown that loneliness and social isolation are downright terrible for our health. In fact, loneliness has been called a bigger health risk than smoking or obesity.

Spending time with loved ones or friends often leads to laughter. Laughing is a powerful antidote to declining health, having been shown to boost immunity, lower blood pressure and stimulate both blood flow and mental activity.

So What Are You Waiting For?
Plan a visit to your mom, and by all means, bring a few good jokes along with you!

Spending time with your parents benefits you, too. The wisdom passed down through generations can be invaluable, and no one quite understands you like mom and dad.

As we know, grandparents can be a major help when it comes to childcare, and research shows that grandparents who babysit are less likely to develop Alzheimer’s and dementia. Hanging out with grandma and grandpa is fun for kids too. Win-win!

Affectionate Granddaughter and Grandparents Playing Outside At The Park.
Looking for something to do next time you parents come by for a visit? Why not ask them about their grandparents and get started on a family tree that maps your history.

Or start a new tradition that will last a lifetime like taking an annual family photo, traveling to a new place on your bucket list, volunteering together or making a favorite family recipe. The possibilities are endless.

Bottom line—spending more time with elderly family members benefits everyone.


A young man called his dad after running out of gas. He’ll never forget what he said next

A wise man once told me that we are defined not by doing what we’re expected to do, but by the actions we take when others don’t expect it.
This story, sent in by a reader, is a great example.
My Dad taught me many lessons growing up, he spoke to me about honesty, respect and honor. One day when I was a young man I ran out of fuel in my car. I was a few miles from home and without a penny. I walked into a pub and asked if I could use their phone to get my Dad to come and collect me. They told me there was a payphone in the corner.
I asked if they had 25 cents so I could make the call, and they obliged.
My Dad came, and the following day I picked up my car. When I got home from work the next day, my Dad asked me if I had stopped off to repay the 25 cents I had borrowed.
I hold him “No” as I had not borrowed the money, but they had just given it to me, and it was only 25 cents.
He told me to pop in and return it, then he told me why: “If you don’t return that 25 cents no one will mind, no one will even notice. However, if you make an effort to return that 25 cents, then, they will notice your actions, they will all notice. They will see that you are an honest man, and they will remember you and your good example.
If you ever need a favor again they will be happy to help you.”
He went on to say, “It takes a lifetime to build a good reputation, but only a moment to lose it.” He was in business for years and was very respected by all.
Now he is living with me and my family because he needs constant care.
People don’t talk much these days about honor and the value of a good name, but I am proud of my good name and thankful to my Dad for it.
A good name is to be chosen rather than great riches, and favor is better than silver or gold.
-Proverbs 22:1Share this with your family and friends.


Mom makes fun of her model brother by having her toddler recreate his poses, and result is hilariously adorable

The modelling world is notoriously competitive, but New York-based model Aristotle Polites is facing some unexpected competition…from his own baby nephew! As you can see from the 18-month-old toddler’s adorably hilarious pictures, he’s been busy recreating his uncle’s poses with the help of his mom (and Aristotle’s older sister) Katina Behm, and we don’t know about you but we think they’re even better than the originals!

It all started when Behm couldn’t get her son, Augie, to wear his plaid button-up shirt. «The image of him with the shirt undone and his bare chest exposed made me laugh because he looked like he belonged on the cover of a romance novel,» she told The Huffington Post. «I took a picture and then realised I bet my brother Aris has a picture just like this on his Instagram page which is filled with modelling photos.» Low and behold, there was indeed a similar picture in her brother’s portfolio, so after creating a side-by-side image of Augie and Aristotle, she sent it to her family and asked them who wore it better. “My brother and I get along great,” she said. “We’ve always had a great younger brother/older sister relationship, lots of poking fun!”

Since then they’ve been recreating many of Augie’s uncle’s most dashing poses, and they’ve even created a joint Instagram account called @babyandthebody that’s already amassed over 23k followers. Scroll down for some of our favorites, and don’t forget to vote for the best!


Internet goes crazy about man who looks like disney prince after losing 70 lbs while taking care of his sick mom

It’s that time of year when we’re all starting to think about those summer body goals. Yet when we go after them, it sometimes feels impossible. Proving what persistence and hard work can achieve, 26-year-old Jeffrey Kendall has decided to share his weight-loss transformation to motivate others and celebrate his results. The former are so impressive and visible, people even gave him a nickname that many would envy.

The journey began when Jeffrey was living with his mother in her home in Connecticut, taking care of her after she’d suffered a brain aneurysm on July 4, 2015. “She was in a coma and rehab hospitals for 7 months until they deemed she had plateaued and was to be released since insurance would no longer cover her,” he told Love What Matters.

Jeffrey has had self-image problems for a long time. “I was an overweight youth, I was bullied growing up. I’ve lived my life with body-image and confidence issues.” Looking after his mother made everything even more emotional. “I had seen her in the hospitals where she could barely speak, I had seen her in the ICU where she couldn’t. I had seen her on the floor unable to wake up. To see her stare without the longing of a mother was heart-wrenching. It put a world of self-pity and pain in perspective to me.”

“My good friend was also in an emotional time after a breakup and wanted help to get in shape. It was a perfect reason for me to start something new as I felt a new appreciation for life after that summer. We started out small, a light barbell workout and agreed to do push-ups every day. Soon I was waking up and going for walks while listening to uplifting music.”

But it didn’t stop. As time went by, Jeffrey found himself constantly achieving and setting new fitness objectives. “I started jogging and doing sprints, pushing myself a little more and more. I sought new ways to work out, I found YouTube channels like ‘Yoga with Adriene’ to help fill those times when I wanted a workout at home. I began doing yoga and working out almost every day.” He lost 70 pounds in a little over 100 weeks!

After he posted his progress pic on reddit, people immediately called him a real-life Disney prince. Admiring his majestic hair, they even said he should be in shampoo ads. “I could barely sleep that night, it was amazing. The comments were all so uplifting and inspiring.”

However, Jeffrey believes that his mom and her attitude towards life may have been the biggest factor that pushed him towards improving. “She’s the toughest person I know and gives me a constant appreciation for life.”

This is Jeffrey Kendall, a 26-year-old Connecticut man whose unbelievable weight-loss transformation earned him the coolest nickname

“I was an overweight youth, I was bullied growing up. I’ve lived my life with body-image and confidence issues”

His journey began when Jeffrey was living with his mother in her home in Connecticut, taking care of her after she’d suffered a brain aneurysm on July 4, 2015

“She was in a coma and rehab hospitals for 7 months until they deemed she had plateaued and was to be released since insurance would no longer cover her”

“My good friend was also in an emotional time after a breakup and wanted help to get in shape. It was a perfect reason for me to start something new”

Fast-forward a little over 100 weeks and Jeffrey is 70 pounds lighter

“I’ve lost a lot of weight, a lot of sadness, and a little facial hair”

So many people told him that he looks like Prince Adam from Beauty and the Beast, he even tried cosplaying him

“I’ve gained a whole new appreciation for life”

“Remember to always love yourself!”

Celebrating Jeffrey’s results, people said he should start acting in shampoo ads

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Want successful kids? Harvard study says make them do this at home

Do your children attend the right schools? Are they taking the right classes at the right schools? Are they getting the right grades in the right classes at the right schools? Well maybe they don’t have to be.

Julie Lythcott-Haims, former dean of freshmen at Stanford and author of “How To Raise An Adult,” did a TED Talk called “How To Raise Successful Kids—Without Overparenting.”

In it she details a parenting strategy she calls the “checklisted childhood,” which has our children “withering under high rates of anxiety and depression and some of them are wondering will this life ever turn out to have been worth it?”

Lythcott-Haims then goes on to share the results of the longest Harvard grant study ever done, which measured professional success in life.

From the study, researchers were able to draw two significant conclusions:

1. Doing Chores At A Young Age Increases Professional Success
It seems simple enough, but the reality is doing chores helps children to see the work that needs to be done around them.

In the professional world, this translates to having a vision for what needs to be done and taking the initiative to do it.

2. Happiness In Life Comes From Love
Children need to know that they are loved unconditionally. That means reassuring them that no matter what boxes they may not be able to check, your love for them does not waver. We exemplify love to them so that they can go on to show love for others.

Children aren’t “bonsai trees, they’re wildflowers,” says Lythcott-Haims. We should not be forming them and shaping them into what we want them to be. Instead we must love who they were created to be and encourage their growth.

To hear more words of wisdom from Haims, watch her full TED Talk:

Handy Kids’ Chore Chart, Broken Down By Age
Wondering what chores your child can do at certain ages? Our friends over at Happy Healthy Mama came up with a handy chart that breaks down what chores are best for each age.

The chart is based on the Montessori education system, which places an emphasis on fostering age-appropriate independence in kids.

You can start your kids off doing simple chores at ages 2 and 3, and then they can work their way up to more complex and in-depth chores as they get older.

As you can see, setting the table could be an appropriate task for a 3-year-old, whereas hand-washing larger dishes is a chore better left to an 8- or 9-year-old child.

While a 4-year-old may be able to help put away groceries, simple food prep is probably easiest a couple years later, around age 6 or 7.

Of course, these are just averages. You know your own child, and can best assess what he or she is capable of. This chart can simply help provide a helpful baseline.


People are applauding this mom for teaching her son about household chores

Do you believe that boys and girls should pitch in equally around the house? Most of us would say that equality matters when it comes to household chores, yet the reality is that by adulthood, most women do several more hours of housework a week than men. This is true even when women have full-time jobs outside the home.

Mom Says Housework Not ‘Just For Women’
One mom decided it was time to change all that. In October 2016, Nikkole Paulun shared a post on Facebook about her son doing chores around the house. She wants her son, Lyle, to be adept at household duties from cooking to cleaning to laundry, so she ensures he pitches in around the house.

The mom then posted pictures of Lyle loading a dishwasher and helping to cook a meal, and the post has since gone viral (with over 63,000 shares as of April 2018).

I teach my son to cook & do household chores. Why? Because household work isn't just for women. Because one day he might…

Gepostet von Nikkole Paulun am Donnerstag, 6. Oktober 2016

Teaching Moment Or Too Much Too Soon?
Many people are saying that Paulun is rocking it as a mom, and they are applauding her not only for teaching gender equality, but for helping her son to have crucial life skills. Cooking and cleaning aren’t just important for girls to learn, everyone needs to have the ability to be self-sufficient.

As Paulun writes, “My son will never be too ‘manly’ to cook or do chores. He will be the kind of man who can come inside from changing a tire to check on his pot roast.”

However, some people are criticizing the young mom (Paulun was featured on MTV’s “16 and Pregnant”), as they say that “kids should be kids” and they shouldn’t have to work so hard or be Paulun’s “slave.”

Others questioned if Paulun would teach her 1-year-old daughter typical “male” chores when she gets older, such as changing a tire.

Gepostet von Nikkole Paulun am Donnerstag, 5. November 2015

“Yes my daughter will know how to do all of those things. She’s just too young to teach still. They’re raised seeing me do both since I’m a single mother,” Paulun responded on Facebook.

“Yes my daughter will know how to do all of those things. She’s just too young to teach still. They’re raised seeing me do both since I’m a single mother,” Paulun responded on Facebook.

She also reassured her followers that her son gets plenty of downtime, as you could see from this picture of him playing video games!

Gepostet von Nikkole Paulun am Donnerstag, 6. Oktober 2016

Other mamas have enjoyed showing off their kids (boys and girls) helping out around the house with chores.

Instagram user mamalarkin got a picture of her kids getting the car cleaned up during an unusually warm January day.

And, what if your have a really little one at home? It’s never too soon to for some kids to want to get in on the fun of chores, according to katieloupops

Sometimes the smallest ones get the biggest excitement out of helping mom, like‘s little boy with the laundry! He makes it look like an adventure!

So, what do you think? Should boys and girls both tackle the same chores at home?

Here are seven things your kids should be able to do by the time they’re teenagers:


Science shows having a sister makes you a better person

I have a sister. We get along great. As kids though, we fought and had our growing pains. That’s normal because we still loved each other. Science has finally caught up with the truth that having an older or younger sister makes your life better. So hooray for sisters!

The results of the 2010 study were published in The Journal of Family Psychology. It involved examining 400 families with multiple siblings; one of whom was between the ages of 10-14. Having a sister promoted positive mental health in their siblings.

The results also showed these brothers and sisters also had a greater capacity to empathize, communicate, and resolve conflicts. Laura Padilla-Walker, a professor in the university’s School of Family Life and the study’s lead author, said that even with all the fighting that may occur, “as long as they have affection, the positive will win out.”

When siblings fight, they must learn to regulate emotions. This is a crucial skill for later in life. And even though sisters and siblings argue, it’s an undeniable truth that life with a brother or sister is less lonely. It’s not shocking that girls talk and are more communicative than boys. If you have a sister, you’re more likely to talk out life’s problems.

There’s good news for the ladies too. Boys who grew up with sisters are better communicators with women in general. What’s most interesting about the study found that after the siblings parents have passed away, sisters do more to keep the family together.

So despite the minor hiccups or arguments you might have with your siblings, they’re just small bumps in the road. Remember your siblings will be with you through your entire life. Keep them close and your relationship strong.


19 tweets from mom and dad that are actually hilarious

Parents make the lamest jokes, right?

Not these parents. These moms and dads are so full of zingers, you won’t know what hit you.

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8-year olds write best paper ever on grandparents. This is gold!

This is great!

What is your grandparents’ role in your life? Do they live under the same roof as you? Have you made your parents grandparents as well? Here’s something that we’re sure grandparents of all ages will enjoy, so feel free to share it.


After telling her husband she would be home at midnight. This mom went out and what she did was hilarious!

The other night I was invited out for a night with the “girls.” I told my husband that I would be home by midnight, “I promise!” Well, the hours passed and the margaritas went down way too easily. Around 3 a.m., a bit loaded, I headed for home. Just as I got in the door, the cuckoo clock in the hallway started up and cuckooed 3 times.

Quickly, realising my husband would probably wake up, I cuckooed another 9 times. I was really proud of myself for coming up with such a quick-witted solution, in order to escape a possible conflict with him. (Even when totally smashed… 3 cuckoos plus 9 cuckoos totals 12 cuckoos = MIDNIGHT !)

The next morning my husband asked me what time I got in, I told him “MIDNIGHT”… he didn’t seem pissed off in the least. Whew, I got away with that one! Then he said “We need a new cuckoo clock.” When I asked him why, he said, “Well, last night our clock cuckooed three times, then said “oh shit” Cuckooed 4 more times, cleared its throat, cuckooed another three times, giggled, cuckooed twice more, and then tripped over the coffee table and farted.